Turning grief into gratitude — rituals, memorials, and keeping their love alive.
Miko (2009-2025) • 16 years | Jiraiya (2011-2026) • 15 years
Grief becomes gratitude when you give their memory a place to live.
These are the rituals that helped me — and might help you.
After Jiraiya passed, I couldn't look at his harness. But I couldn't throw it away either.
Now every morning I water the rosemary and say his name.
Tell them what you didn't get to say. Burn it, bury it, or keep it in a box.
Every Sunday evening, light a candle in their memory. Let it burn while you sit with them.
Songs that remind you of them. Listen when you need to cry.
Once a year, on their crossing date, walk where they loved to walk. Say their name out loud.
On their birthday, go through old photos. Share one on social media. Let others remember them too.
Here are some of the ways I have kept Miko and Jiraiya close: